HAVE I LOST MY GIRLFRIEND TO ANOTHER MAN?

For years now have had a very promising and "perfect" relationship with my partner. She means a lot to me. We have both come a long way from our days in the University through to my National Service in Wa, Upper West Region and hers at the Ministry of Communications, Accra. We have shown we are capable and been at the admiration of many of our friends. 

However, not too long ago, I almost gave up on our investment of love and courtship. A lot of things were happening and I felt I was losing her cos she wasn't caring anymore and was not showing any concern on the things we both program and planned. 

                          

Our communication began rattling to insults and our love tales caught fire of anger, doubts and ingratitude. At the night I took a phone to call off the relationship that has lasted for years, her phone was off. We haven’t spoken for barely a week now and it was actually on my throats cos I felt she was giving lot of attention, care, love, excitement and concern to someone else. In fact I was losing her. I called some few friends and told them about my decision but they all didn't sound convincing to me.

In my impatient mood that night, a friend sent me a WhatsApp chat which coincided with my thoughts. I was really shocked and broken down. This was how the message read:

Dave and Clara have been married for over nine years without children. They stayed with each other and hoped that they will have a child before their 10th year of marriage because they were being persuaded by family and some friends to get a divorce but they couldn't let go because of the love between them.

Months passed...by and while Dave was returning from work one day, he saw his wife walking down the road with a man and they looked happy.

Another evening, while Dave was coming back from work, he saw the same man drop her off at the house. Dave became angry and sad. Two days later, after a hectic day at work, Dave was taking water with a glass jug when the phone rang. He picked it up and the person said ‘hello dear, I’ll be coming to your house this evening to see you as promised. I hope .....’’and the Dave hung up the phone. It was a male voice. He was sure the person was the man he had seen with his wife. He suddenly became shaky with this thought, ‘’have I lost my wife to another man?’’ At that point, the glass jug fell from his hand and shattered into pieces.

Then Clara came running into the room asking, ‘’is everything okay?’’ In anger he gave his wife a push and she fell. She wasn't moving or getting up.

Dave then realized that she fell where he broke the glass jug and a large piece of glass has pierced her. He felt her breath, pulse and heartbeat but there she lay lifeless. His wife was dead. In total confusion, he saw an envelope in her hand. He took it, opened it and was shocked by its content. It was a letter and it reads:

‘’ My loving husband, words cannot express how I feel, so i had to write it down. I have been going to see a doctor for over a week and wanted to be sure before I give you the news. The doctor confirmed it that I am pregnant with a twin and our babies are due in 7 months from now. The doctor also happen to be my long last brother whom I lost contact with after our marriage. He has promised to take care of me and our babies and give us the best without collecting a dime. He also promised to have dinner with us today. Thanks to you for standing by me.....your loving wife.”

As the letter fell from Dave’s hand, there was a knock at the door and it was the same man he had seen with his wife... and he said ......’’ hello Dave, I suppose am right, am Max, your wife’s brother.....’’And suddenly he noticed his sister in the pool of her blood... he rushed her to his hospital but it was too late, his sister, Dave’s wife was gone and so were the twins.

After I had read the message, my conscience couldn't stop judging me. I broke into tears. Suddenly my phone ranged and it was her call, but I couldn't answer. I ranged back sounding sorry. She told me how much she misses me and her reason for being lukewarm for some time in our relationship. I arrived at a discovery that, it was actually my faults and almost lost a nation in her. Honestly, that was the best night talking on phone after years of courting. I still miss that day. We spoke close to three hours and we both did not want to drop the call.

What is the point? I have come to learn that, in our relationships, which include our dates and marriages, we should not be too quick in reacting when we haven’t questioned our partner or spouse on what we saw, assume or heard about them.

Communication, Trust and Patience are rare gifts we can bring to our relationship.

Not everything we see, assume or hear or believe is right about them. And to every man or woman, I pray that patience will have her perfect stay in you that you may be perfect and wanting nothing because patience is that great virtue you need to keep your relationship.

CREDIT:Daniel Nana Kwame Asare